Sometime ago, I was thinking about something a bit stupid… Why do people separate “socials” from “asocials”, I mean, not physically; why do they classify them that way? Don’t know if I’m explaining myself.
Well, I actually didn’t find an answer, but a subclassification (xD).
When we talk about a Social person, we imagine parties, friend meetings and that stuff. But when we imagine an asocial one, we see a typical “nerd”; why? Well, that’s a question everybody should ask themselves. Anyway, now think about divide the socials in Active Socials, and Passives ones. The same to the Asocials; some are Actives and some are Passives.
The difference is that Passives don’t worry about what others think, just how him/she could feel better. Being a social means that you can communicate to other people easily, you can talk to “them” without being ashamed or something. Being an asocial doesn’t mean you don’t talk to people, it means that, for you, is hard to talk to other people, to express yourself, maybe because you are ashamed of yourself, but there are many other psychological reasons that could cause this, not just that. I’m not talking about them at all, I’m just talking about the simple concept: Two types: Social – Asocial, two subdivisions, Passives – Actives.
Well, let’s go back to the topic; Actives: they are always thinking on what others think about them. A Social-Active person would always want to go to parties, meetings and other social events. Also, they normally have a huge amount of contacts on Facebook, MSN or the Blackberry’s PIN (so you can picture it). They do it because they believe the most important thing in this life is making people like you. But, unlike the Asocial-Active, they have no problem doing that, to be “social”. The Asocial Actives usually are depressive, or at least a bit sad; they are Actives because they worry about what others think, so they try to be more social, they go to parties and try to be more friendly, but psychological, they can’t, at least it’s difficult, they are trying to be someone they’re not.
On the other hand, Asocial-Passives are more likely to be comfortable with who they are; sure, they sometimes go to a party, and sure, just talk to a small and close circle of friends, but they know who they are and it doesn’t bother them. Social-Passives are similar, but they have a greater number of friends, they had talked to more people, they had met more people because they are more used to that.
Lets take an example in the T.V. series, The Big Bang Theory. Sheldon its a Asocial-Passive, he doesn’t care about what others think, he know he is a
fuckinggenius (he said so at some episodes -.-”). Leonard is the Asocial-Active, that is always trying to be more social, but it’s very insecure about himself, although later he becomes a Social-Passive. And Penny is a Social-Active, thinking in parties, relationships, etc.
In conclusion, being active means you are always thinking in what other think, even if you don’t think so, you are. Normally your personality is based on “the group”, in what others believe a person should be. Instead, if you are a passive, you have your own personality, for you, it doesn’t matters what others thinks, you are what you want to be, you hear to the music you want to hear, you dress yourself the way you feel more comfortable, you are you.
Well, hope you understand this… article, see’ya.
P.S. The photo is from a ’80s movie, “The Breakfast Club” in wich are represented five stereotypes of students (or, lets say, people). These are not 4, like my article, but it isn’t related completely to it; I can’t even imagine an image that will work for this article; so I used this because it’s similar to what I want to share here. I could have taken some pictures but it just feels weird to ask people for that.