Some philosopher once said that eyes were the open doors to the human’s soul. If I believed in souls, I absolutely would believe this is truth. When you look at people’s eyes, you can know, or at least feel, how they are, emotionally. You can feel the sadness, the happiness, the enjoyment or the sleepiness… The different shapes also tell you about the personality and everything else.
Most people don’t look at other’s eyes. Mostly teenagers or kids. They just don’t. It is said that teenager don’t do it because they don’t want to feel guilty. As they’re always been persecuted (they feel so), feeling others looking at them may feel weird.
I, myself, am a teenager. I used not to look at people’s eyes. I know at first, as a kid, I didn’t because I felt some visual attraction to the mouth movements. I know that seems weird, but as a kid I felt that the most reasonably thing to do was not looking at the eyes, which were seamless, but at the mouth, the lips, that was the only part of the face I detected movement, or life: I supposed it was important to pay attention to it. Even then, I can’t read people’s lips while speaking (what a waste of time, right?).
The thing is, that now I try to look at the eyes. It is easy, do not think otherwise. I can tell you that when you’re talking to just one other person it creates a link between both of you. A link that makes the conversation flow more easily. A link that makes you think faster (and better) about what to say. In little words, it becomes easy to talk.
When on larger groups, looking at people’s eyes is more difficult. The conversations are less personal, no matter the level of confidence with the other people; conversations of three or more never get to be as close as two people conversations.
I feel the reason of that is that when you’re talking to another person (only one), you, as I said before, create a link, a sealed tunnel where information can go anywhere with no regrets. But on larger groups, as it is harder to pay attention to all at the same time, there are no tunnels, nor links. Everything is vanished after someone starts talking.
People’s eyes are the open doors to our souls. Keep that in mind with this: our souls are not private, but they can’t be share with two people at the same time. Now rephrase it.