Relationships and hypocrisy

Masks on a table

If one thing is hard in this life is to have a real connection to another human being. I’m not talking about significant others, romantically, but any kind of connection, to be real, fulfilling. Some people call that to have a “good relationship”. Having a good relationship not only means that both are comfortable with each other and that stuff, but that you both trust each other, help each other when in need and so on.

Feels like too much? I’m going to guess your best relationship is a good one, a very good one, and I will ask you to think about your best friend, significant other, or family member who’s closest to you (mix them all, as there are no distinctions here). Do you help that person when he or she needs it? Does she or he help you when you need it? Do you trust each other? Do you fight regularly? Most of the time or barely ever? If the latter, do you feel like you need the fight or the discussion? Is it an open relationship (in matters of no secrets and hidden feelings)?

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Hypothetical Universes. Just picture it

Weird

What is a hypothesis? It’s a supposition made upon something based on current (limited) information. That is, a statement that might or might not be true, but if only the original facts (information) are taken into account, it cannot be proven wrong. If you know humans can talk and that humans cannot use magic spells, can you say humans can talk to other animals? Based on those two statements you can’t say they cannot. So, in a universe where only those two statements are true, another third one like that can actually be true.

So what’s a hypothetical universe? It’s basically a creation built upon a set of basic truths: a different world from ours, in which you decide what information from this world is true, and what isn’t. So, basically, is a universe based on this one, with changes, like a different gravity force, different colors or something… different. Anything. Are you up to change the world you live in? Of course, with your imagination.

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Anime series relating humans unity

Sword Art Online scene

Lately I’ve been able to follow past hobbies like playing retro video-games and watching new anime (japanese animation series). Specifically talking about the latter, anime has always been part of me since I first watched the Toonami segment on Cartoon Network (while sadly, it’s gone for years now in latin america). On the other hand, after I got to know manga (japanese comic-books) and realize most anime was based on it, I left anime aside to only read manga.

Some days ago I started watching an old anime series and talked about it to a friend of mine who’s always been an addict to anime. He recommended me two relatively new series: Shingeki no Kyojin (Attack on Titan) and Sword Art Online. As the second one was about online gaming, I felt more attracted to it. I never thought it would led me to question some points about human nature.

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Mental exercise: construct an idea

Little world

The concept of “idea” is as abstract as the idea itself, therefore I wanted to write “world” or “story” instead of “idea” in the title, but as you see, if you can construct both, and more, the fact is that you’re building an idea. But how are you doing such a thing? You are not, either way. If I puzzled you with my writing just keep reading.

To construct an idea can be seen as forming a question or just answering one. A question is a language construction that asks for information on some matter. Seen abstractly is something like making room in your head for more information with an empty space for it with a big sign that reads the question.

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Is it “a” social group? or is it “your” social group? Define your circles

A group of young adults

Social groups are something we don’t usually think about. It’s something that’s there or is not. Either way, it’s something we don’t think about because we don’t like to think about it. It’s the magic of “friendship” and social relationships in general we like to believe in: Everything is magical and natural so that we don’t have to actually think about how it works. Yet psychologist and other people on the field do want to study these relationships and the groups themselves, because in the end, it’s something worth studying.

How does a social group works? Why does it exist? When and how it began existing? It was created by one individual or by something else? Those are question we might ask, but I like to center in the individual being part of these social groups. Does he/she knows or realizes he or she is part of the group? Does the group actually has a “collective mind” that knows who is part of it or not? Has the individual some way to be organized with these social relationships? We know the relationship here is with the group, and not necessarily with each member, but how can we be sure?

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Gifts you give… Why do you give gifts?

Gifts

There is something about gifts many people are confused about. The main reason for that misunderstanding is that they don’t know the fact that they don’t know. Asking you why do you give gifts might lead to a relatively well-constructed answer. But it won’t be the real answer.

I will not give an answer, but I’ll give you some raw knowledge about gifts that I hope you can use to form an idea and then a real answer (or whatever closest to it), so that the invisible confusion is over. At the end of it all, it’s always better to know, right? …not quite, but move on.

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Social groups… Are you part of one?

A group of people hugging in the middle of a street

The most obvious answer could be “Yes”, yet not all of us are part of a group, many can say they are. Even if the group is a friend, it’s a group, right? Well, in a strict way of thinking, you can think of groups as subjective abstract circles, or objectives ones. That is, circles of people (think of Google+ circles, maybe?), made around you, by you and for you, which you are part of, or circles made not by one, not for one, but by many, for many. objective circles are “stablished” social groups; subjective circles are “improvised” social groups.

So, in a way, you, as a person, living around people, are part of a big social group, made by the city/town, in which social interacting is set to a minimum, letting society exist. Get that? From that, every one of us usually makes circles, or rings, that catch other people into our mental environment, setting social interaction to what we specify, on our part, and what they specify, on theirs.

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