We are much like Venn diagrams (You know, a set of things)

A Venn diagram with two people as groups

A Venn diagram is a way to represent a set of things. Picture a circle, with a name (commonly a capital letter), filled with things, elements. They can vary from being letters or numbers to words and strings. They can be anything, and the set itself is formed because all those elements have something in common.

Say there’s a set named “Alphabet”, the elements being a, b, c, d, e, f, g, h, i, j, k, l, m, n, o, p, q, r, s, t, u, v, w, x, y and z. What do they have in common? I think that’s pretty obvious. Now imagine a person, as a whole, could be its own set, its own Venn diagram. The name would be the person’s name and the elements any knowledge, thought, emotion, feeling the person have. The diagram is filled day after day with new things. Nothing leaves the diagram. You grow as a person, and from that you, as a Venn diagram, grow, too.

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How much do you share with others?

A girl talking to a hydrant.

A relationship is any kind of bond between to things, in this case (and probably the rest of this blog’s article), relating people. When you ask a stranger for the time, you’re creating a connection. With a friend, you have a bond, too. The same with family and any kind of acquaintance.

Of course, those bonds are different, as all of them are from a “different level”. Each relationship can be stored on a level: family, close friends, friends, acquaintances, strangers… Even that “significant other” could represent a totally different level of connection. Normally we arrange those levels in that order, family being the closest thing to you, and the significant other between family and close friends, or a level below that. That arrangement may vary, but regardless of that, we tend to share our lives more with the first, and least with the latter. I call that closeness.

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Perception of reality: happy times, sad times and self-esteem.

A girl is seen on water. Only the up side is seen.

Have you ever heard that a person who feels taller than others loves itself more? You may call that person egocentric or whatever you like, but it’s a fact, that somehow your perception of your stature has a direct relation to your self-esteem. It doesn’t matter if you’re little or 7 feet tall, the perception is what matters.

Have you ever met a person who is obviously smaller than others, but who feels taller? High self-esteem. Or a person taller than other but who feels smaller? Low self-esteem. The “normal” thing would be to feel exactly as you are. You are taller, you feel taller, and the same if you’re small. The thing is that that way your stature would be ironically telling your actual self-esteem. No one likes to feel smaller than others, even if the person is smaller.

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Why I can’t be creative while feeling sad (And why you should care about it)

A sad guy sitting on a bed

When we are happy, we think clearly, or at least we feel so. We may not see some bad things “as they are”, but we do see good things, and in general, we feel “normal” and feel life “fluid”. On the meantime, as everything is “normal”, thoughts are clean and you feel good, creativity comes naturally, and ideas, thoughts and general creation too. When we are sad, none of this actually happens.

It depends on how sad you are at the moment, but in general, if you’re an “average person” (say, who gets equally sad and happy moments, and is not somehow depressed or something affecting those emotions), when you get sad, is for a reason. Maybe a friend insulted you, maybe you didn’t win at something you were sure you would, or maybe the friend that insulted you for not winning just died. Those are just examples of what could make you sad. Now, regarding that reason, thoughts come in the way.

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Creativity boost! Answer: questions!

A Question Mark

If there is something that always gets me knock out of writing, drawing, and anything that has something to do with creativity is in fact, the lack of creativity. It’s not that I lack of creativity, but that at the moment, there no inspiration, and no creativity, as an energy value, not as a adjective, if that makes sense.

The fact is we’re all creative, yet not always we feel it, nor we act creatively. That’s the reason I came up with this: II was soooo bored and found myself with such a lack of inspiration, that it occurred to me, after a while, that the only way out of it was to need to answer a question.

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5 Rules to become a decent liar

A black suit

A nice person is that who respects, who’s tolerant and accepts the existence of other people. Are you any different from that? If you are, in any way, a little intolerant, or sometimes you wish others weren’t around you (like that creepy fellow on the bus, that annoying neighbor of yours or a dumb politician in charge), you should at least (out of respect) be respectful, in any way you can. Even lying.

When you lie, you should follow some rules that won’t make you a good liar, but will make you a respectful, decent, liar (maybe on the inside wishing you could tell the harsh truth).

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Remembering with sounds and smells

A girl smelling a flower

This is something curious I thought about several days ago. I know, and I figure you know too, that senses trigger memories sometimes. You can see a face and remember a person, or by smelling a perfume, hearing a voice… You can trigger memories from specific smell, sounds, senses… If they relate to your life in some way.

There are different kind of senses, and a different times we pay attention to them in different proportions. Some times we listen more carefully than we smell, or touch more than we taste, or well, you get the idea. Referring only to sounds and smells, I noted something odd…

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